{"id":1777,"date":"2025-06-18T17:01:01","date_gmt":"2025-06-18T15:01:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/psylyon6.com\/?p=1777"},"modified":"2026-07-27T10:57:10","modified_gmt":"2026-07-27T08:57:10","slug":"therapie-de-couple","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/psylyon6.com\/en\/therapie-de-couple\/","title":{"rendered":"Couples therapy: providing a space of trust to transform the bond, consult before the storm"},"content":{"rendered":"
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\u201cI can\u2019t take it anymore, me neither, we\u2019re drained, we can\u2019t even talk to each other, not even look at each other\u2026 he\/she doesn\u2019t listen to me, he\/she keeps saying the same things,<\/span>he\/she will never change, I know it, he\/she wants me to change but he\/she\u2026 doesn\u2019t move,<\/span> so what do we do ? Do we end it ? Do we keep going ?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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Building or rebuilding a strong bond takes work... and it's possible, even before the breakup.<\/figcaption>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/figure>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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\u201c1 + 1 = 3\u201d: when the couple becomes a system in its own right<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Every couple is a unique, living, and evolving creation. It cannot be reduced to two individuals; rather, it forms a true system: a \u201cthird entity\u201d born from <\/span>the meeting of two stories, two psyches, two languages, two bodies, two <\/span>worlds. This idea of \u201c1 + 1 = 3\u201d, dear to Jacques Salom\u00e9<\/u>, beautifully expresses this <\/span>systemic reality: <\/span>
there is me, there is you\u2026 and there is the couple we create <\/b><\/span>together, this bond that connects us.
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It is this \u201cperson\u201d that I meet in therapy, <\/span>for more than ten years<\/b><\/span>, alongside <\/span>couples from all walks of life: heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, queer, <\/span>young or experienced, from similar or diverse cultural backgrounds, first-time <\/span>couples or blended families. Each <\/span>couple<\/span> has its own codes, silences, wounds, strengths, <\/span>and, of course, its mysteries. Each comes with a request, sometimes unspoken: <\/span>to understand what is no longer working, to communicate differently\u2026 or to prevent what <\/span>could eventually break apart.
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But choosing to <\/span>seek couples therapy<\/b><\/span> is not asking for an autopsy. On the <\/span>contrary, it is choosing life, wanting to transform the relationship and, through that process, daring to transform oneself.
<\/span>It is offering oneself a space to revisit the relationship and find a new position within it, <\/span>individually and together.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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Why consult? And why now?<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Many couples seek help when they\u2019re on the edge of the <\/b> breakup<\/strong>.
It\u2019s human: as long as things \u201chold together,\u201d we keep going. And yet, coming to therapy before the storm can be an act of preventive care, an act of relational maturity<\/b>. It allows you to explore tensions<\/b>, unspoken issues, and expectations before they become unmanageable.<\/p>

Here are some contexts in which couples therapy can be beneficial:<\/span><\/h3><\/div>